Does the back-to-school hustle of kids’ sports, homework duty, and prepping school lunches have you asking, “What do married couples do at night besides this?” You are not alone! I know you’re exhausted and wishing for alone time with your hubby, and I have just the solution for you! In this post, I will share a list of date night ideas for married couples that will significantly refuel and recharge your marriage.
This past spring, my husband and I realized our marriage was not thriving in the insane environment we were living in. Every night we raced off to watch our kids play sports or spent our nights helping with homework and washing uniforms for the next day’s activities. It was all we could do to catch 30 minutes alone while snuggling up to watch our favorite show, just before falling asleep on the couch.
My husband and I decided it was time to make a change. We needed something simple that would make us feel like a couple again and especially make us feel like each other’s priority. We made one simple change that made a huge difference. My husband and I simply went on a date!
I know, it sounds silly to put so much stock in something so simple. But when was the last time you spent time with your husband without your kids, and really, I mean really, felt a deep connection?
Ask Him on a Date
I made a conscious decision that we were going on a date. I texted my husband while he was at work and told him to be ready at 6:00! It was the one night of the week we had at home. We were exhausted from work but somehow managed to muster up the energy to leave the house. With no ideas and no plans, we left. We just knew we were out of there!
As a result, we ended up having a 3-hour dinner, one of my all-time favorite memories. My husband and I talked about the kids, work, our lives together, and what we wanted for our future. We hadn’t had a deep, meaningful conversation in months before this. It lit my soul on fire!
Since that night, we swore that date nights would become a regular occurrence in our marriage. We’ve had a lot of fun and have many more dates planned in our future.
I promise if you choose one of these date night ideas for married couples and just go, you will be so glad you did!
Date Ideas for Married Couples
Here are a few of my favorite date night ideas that will reignite any flame.
1. Pizza and Pool
What husband doesn’t love a wife who “attempts” to play a game of pool? There are so many restaurants, bars, and dives that have intimate atmospheres that are perfect for this. Pick a night of the week that you know will be a little quiet so you can take your time playing without feeling rushed or crowded out. This date night will make you feel like you’re in college again!
2. A Night of Favorites
This is a fun way to let your hubby know he is #1 and that you know him better than anyone. Pick his favorite restaurant and favorite late-night activity, or let him choose the night’s itinerary. He will feel special that he is the center of attention, which doesn’t often happen since the kids usually take that seat.
3. Beer Tasting
I don’t know about your hubby, but my husband loves nothing better than an ice-cold beer, regardless of the time of year. Pick 2-3 local bars and Uber from bar to bar, sipping on local beers while you compare scorecards and choose your night’s favorite. Have fun naming the winning beer in honor of the night’s festivities! You will always have a place and a beer to return to for any date night that deserves a cold one.
4. Back Roading
We are from the rural midwest, where back roading is a thing. You should definitely try this one if you’re not familiar! Pack a picnic and your favorite playlists and drive with no destination in mind. Sing, laugh, reminisce, and stop for a picnic. Driving around can be one of the most fun and spontaneous dates. And you never know what will happen when it’s just the two of you in the car.
5. Coffee Date
This is a perfect date for intimate conversation and can happen any time of the week. It can also be a shorter date when your time is more limited. If you want a heart-to-heart and deep connection, this is a great place to do that. Coffee shops have an ambiance that encourages meaningful discussion.
6. Stay In Movie Night
I know, so predictable. But trust me, if you are intentional, it will become a date night favorite. The first requirement, kids MUST be in bed or, better yet, send the kids to the grandparents or with a babysitter. Having the house to yourselves for a few hours is glorious. Something about a good R-rated movie, homemade popcorn, and snuggling up on the couch is irreplaceable. No makeup is required for this date. And making out at the movies has never been so much fun! This is probably my personal favorite on the list of date night ideas for couples. Because there is just something magical about a quiet house and the two of you alone, it is truly heaven on earth.
7. Retail Therapy for Him
Does your husband enjoy the outdoors, golfing, etc.? What are his hobbies? Some of my favorite times with my husband have been strolling through home improvement stores and dreaming up projects or walking around Bass Pro for hours (okay, maybe not that long, but it felt like it.) Let him explore his interests and show that you are interested in him and what he loves.
8. Lunch Date
Sometimes sneaking away from the office during the day to catch your guy for lunch is one of the best ways to make his day. If your evenings are booked and you can’t fit a date night in, try surprising him with lunch. Lunch is a quick way to get in some one-on-one time and start making the habit of dating a reality.
9. Fishing or Anything Outdoors
If your husband is anything like mine, he especially loves the outdoors, fishing, tinkering outside, and doing outdoor projects. Pick an activity that he enjoys and surprise him. He will be flattered by your sincere attempt at speaking his love language, and your efforts alone will wow him.
10. Hunt for Local Treasures
Flea markets and antique store trips are a fun way to encourage laughter, conversation, and generally just a good time. If you haven’t hit up one lately, try this for your next date. You will be surprised how quickly time flies while you enjoy reminiscing and appreciating the nostalgia throughout the aisles.
11. Bedroom Date
This one is a favorite on the 11 Date Night Ideas for Married Couples list. How about planning a late-night date for the bedroom? Light candles, play music, and wear something special. The most important thing about this date is that you schedule it. Text him that day or discuss it before, but make sure you agree it is a date! Regardless of what has happened that day or how tired you are, it is on the calendar. Scheduling a special night like this will help you connect deeply, find new ways to make time for yourselves, and prove that dating brings value to your marriage.